As parents we are responsible for guiding and correcting out children throughout their life, using both love and discipline. If your child strays from the path and needs discipline or guidance, make sure that you approach this in a loving, non-confrontational manner.
Try to avoid unnecessary blame or criticism. Be firm but fair, and never nasty or hurtful. Otherwise, you stand the chance of destroying your child’s self-esteem, which can cause them to resent you later on. Ensure your child knows that no matter what, you love for them is unconditional, but that you expect better behavior from them next time around.
Many of us pickup and remark on the negative behavior of our children, without sometimes stopping to notice and remark on the times when they’ve behaved well or achieved something positive. It is important to praise and buildup your child when they are well behaved or have done something positive. Otherwise, all they will see is negativity, which will rub-off on their own personality and erode their self-esteem. Try to exercise positive guidance as well as discipline.
Try to spot them when they’ve done something right and remark upon it. This may be as simple as “Oh, what a good boy you are. You’ve taken out the rubbish without one of us asking you” or “that was so nice of you to help your little sister put her shoes on”. These simply, upbeat remarks, encourage better behaviour, far more than constant scolding.
Try to identify one positive point each day and remark upon it and give tonnes of hugs and kisses. If you do this, you’ll ne assured to see positive results, not only in their behavior but also their self-esteem and general disposition.
Try to avoid unnecessary blame or criticism. Be firm but fair, and never nasty or hurtful. Otherwise, you stand the chance of destroying your child’s self-esteem, which can cause them to resent you later on. Ensure your child knows that no matter what, you love for them is unconditional, but that you expect better behavior from them next time around.
Many of us pickup and remark on the negative behavior of our children, without sometimes stopping to notice and remark on the times when they’ve behaved well or achieved something positive. It is important to praise and buildup your child when they are well behaved or have done something positive. Otherwise, all they will see is negativity, which will rub-off on their own personality and erode their self-esteem. Try to exercise positive guidance as well as discipline.
Try to spot them when they’ve done something right and remark upon it. This may be as simple as “Oh, what a good boy you are. You’ve taken out the rubbish without one of us asking you” or “that was so nice of you to help your little sister put her shoes on”. These simply, upbeat remarks, encourage better behaviour, far more than constant scolding.
Try to identify one positive point each day and remark upon it and give tonnes of hugs and kisses. If you do this, you’ll ne assured to see positive results, not only in their behavior but also their self-esteem and general disposition.